Monday, February 27, 2012

Humility vs Pride

What is the meaning of Humility?
             In Websters Dictionary it says modesty, absence of pride, meekness.

In Philippians 2:5-8  our example is Christ:
5Let this same attitude and purpose and [humble] mind be in you which was in Christ Jesus: [Let Him be your example in humility:]
6Who, although being essentially one with God and in the form of God [[a]possessing the fullness of the attributes which make God God], did not [b]think this equality with God was a thing to be eagerly grasped [c]or retained,
7But stripped Himself [of all privileges and [d]rightful dignity], so as to assume the guise of a servant (slave), in that He became like men and was born a human being.
8And after He had appeared in human form, He abased and humbled Himself [still further] and carried His obedience to the extreme of death, even the death of the cross!
Well this is how "we" or "I" should live out my life.  This story about me could use a lot more humilty.  

My Daddy was a real sportsman.  He loved to watch & play baseball, basketball & in his later years tennis was his favorite sport. He loved playing with friends, me, my brother, my husband & the grandchildren.  He also loved to win.

He was always there to encourage us as we played.  We can all see him now raising his arms in victory when he won.

Daddy & I played tennis on Daddy's 80th birthday.  Of course he won.  Daddy knew just how to place the ball.  In fact he would tell me where & how the ball was going to land even before the ball hit the court.  We were playing at the public tennis courts, so many people were watching & some of those people knew Daddy.  They were all coming up to congratulate him on his 80th birthday & to say that they were hoping  to play tennis with their children when they are Daddy's age.

The next day after his birthday, we played again.  For the very first time in my life I beat Daddy.  In fact Dave just happened to come & watch the game.  It was great to have someone there to actually witness that I had beat him 'fair n square.'

I couldn't help but jump up & down, & gloating.  On the way home we were in my car which is a convertible.  I sat on the back of the car waving, like I would do if I were riding in a parade.,  All Daddy could do was grin.  That night before bed, Daddy wouldn't even kiss me as he usually did due to his defeat; instead only laughter.

Almost exactly a year ago last Feb. was my last time Daddy & I played tennis.  I was so out of shape & I knew he had no busy running around the court.  We both agreed to just enjoy hitting the ball back & forth.  After a few good hits half court, I started thinking, "I'm doing really good."  About that time my foot stuck to the ground & I went down like a belly flop on the court.  It was a horrible fall.

After 6 hrs in the emergence room, a cat scan, 3 stitches & a broken nose later, I went home like a puppy dog with its' tail stucked its' leggs.  I spent the next couple of days on my parents couch with ice on my face.  I  did heal up nicely.

But as scripture says, “pride goes before a fall,” even if it was 6 yrs later.
                                             ann :)

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

What Really is the Age of a Senior Citizen?

As you might have read in my previous blogs, I have had a hard time accepting being MIDDLE AGE.  It was one thing to be called middle age & really being middle age.  I believe 55 yr old is middle age, which I am 56 yrs old turning 57 in April.  Dave has been informing me that a 55 yr old person, is a SENIOR CITIZEN.  Naturally, I argued.  He believes if you live to 110 yr, then 55 yr is middle age.


In the Bible men lived from 600 to 900 yrs old before the flood.  That means middle age was 300 to 450 yr old.  Can you imagine it.  At that age, they would have called them just a "baby" or "young whipper snappers."  I wonder what they looked like?  The texture of their skin.  How about their eye?  Cataracts?  How about their teeth & their physical condition?  

                           What about Enoch?        Genesis 5:22-24
22Enoch walked [in habitual fellowship] with God after the birth of Methuselah 300 years and had other sons and daughters.  23So all the days of Enoch were 365 years.  24And Enoch walked [in habitual fellowship] with God; and he was not, for God took him [home with Him].

Also, Methuselah I think was the oldest man to ever live.
Now after the flood, that was another story.  God said that man would not live past 120 years.

                                                   Genesis 6:3
Then the Lord said, My Spirit shall not forever dwell and strive with man, for he also is flesh; but his days shall yet be 120 years.

Dave loves for me to tell him when he is right.  In fact, if he was here, he would automatically say, "What did you say?"  I would then have to say super quietly, "You are right about 55 being a senior citizen."


In December we were doing some errands with Amy.  We stopped at Chick-fil-a for lunch.  Dave told me to go up to the counter & get a senior citizen coffee.  I was appalled!!   The worse part of the entire event was the guy at the counter didn't even second guess me.

The second incident was soon after that.  When Dave & I lived in Highlands, NC for ten years, we went to the movies in Franklin almost every weekend.  Well, we have been here for about three months & hadn't been once.  I was in movie deficient.  So we finally went to see one.  I can't even remember what the movie was at this point.  The title of the movie is not the point.  My point is Dave wanted me to ask for  senior citizen tickets.  In Highlands, we were not even in the age bracket yet.  But, would you believe we were in that bracket NOW!!!

I think I will agree with God.  If I live to be 120 yr old, then I'm right now at middle age.  If I die before 120 yr of age, then, what does it matter.  At least I don't have to tell Dave he was right :)  :)  :)  I love that!!!
                                                          ann :)

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Three Most Dreaded Words in the English Language Are....

I enjoy writing my blogs when the incident happens.  I'm more in the moment that way.  So, I am very behind in writing this one since it happened during the evening (30th) before New Years Eve Day, 2011.  I love the story anyway & I hope I can do it justice.

We had a great Christmas with Amy this past year.  Amy prepared the most awesome meal Christmas Eve.  The table was decorated so festive.  After a relaxing evening at her home, we all came to our place where Amy spent the rest of the Christmas weekend with us.  We had a great Christmas Day even though it was quiet with the three of us.  The following day, Amy & I went shopping for the sales.  She is a great one to have around to help you discover the deals out there.

Ben, Jenny & Lauren are on the every other year plan.  One year they spend Thanksgiving with one side of the family & Christmas with the other side.  The next year they switch.  You might can identify.  We did the very same thing when our children were growing up.  The family who doesn't get to celebrate Christmas with Ben, Jenny & Lauren hope to celebrate Christmas on New Years with them.  This year was no exception.

Since I begin playing Christmas carols the 1st of November & decorate the day after Thanksgiving, I am ready for the tree to be taken down Christmas night & the rest of the decor down the next day.  Ben just could not stand that this year.  He wanted it all up for our second Christmas.

I was not going to repeat the Christmas meal all over again.  I prepared the traditional New Years meal, with ham, black-eyed peas, collards, etc... which we ate with our celebration at New Years Eve lunch.

The night before New Years Eve Day, I was frantically putting together our granddaughters Christmas gift.  I bought this child's basketball goal at least 6 weeks before Christmas.  We thought of several ideas that might be good for Lauren this year.  Dave wanted Lauren to have the basketball goal, but for some reason I was the one putting it together.  These directions were not written out.  These directions were pictures on the huge box that the basketball goal came in.

It was a great work-out.  I used all the strength that I could muster up to put some of those pieces together.  Some pieces I even needed a bar of soap to squeeze them together.  I even got the applicaes on correctly without tearing them.  I was so proud.  Now, it came time to put on the final touch-the nylon net on the hoop.  I was following the pictures to the "tee".  For some reason the net wasn't fitting to the hoop.  I tugged & tugged.  I had finally had it.  I went & got some string & tied each loop so neatly.  It was now perfect for play.  I was not going to have my granddaughters present not ready for "Christmas".

We had the best time having Christmas all over again.  In fact, I almost forgot to bring out the basketball goal for Lauren to try out.  I have to admit that her Daddy & Dave had more fun with it than she did.

EVERYONE also informed me that I put on the net backwards.  I had to prove that I did do it correctly, so I took them to the box with the directions.  Well, I have to admit that I did put the net on backwards.



I think this illustration might prove that the most dreaded words in the English language are SOME ASSEMBLE REQUIRED!!!  The second set of the most dreaded words in the English language are BATTERIES NOT INCLUDED!!!  Do you agree?
                                                         ann :) 

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

PS-My words-Part 8

As I have mention in a previous blog that Daddy wanted only me to read his Statement of Faith.  I really didn't want to because I felt I would be too emotional at a time like this.  Since we had two weeks to prepare before Daddy's passing, & since I knew with confidence that Daddy wanted me to do this, then I knew that the Lord would give me the strength & courage to do what Daddy asked of me.

The morning of the service, I practiced in front of Dave.  I practice getting up out of the pew while holding onto Dave's arm as I walked up on stage.  My hose made my feet a little slippery in my shoes.  I practiced putting on my reading glasses & opening my folder.  I was ready as I would ever be.

I told Dave & the preacher that I might not spring up after Penelope's solo because I knew it was going to be a tear jerkier.  In fact I worshiped with my eyes closed, not to look at Penelope for fear of getting emotional.  Before we left, someone said that this was going to be a sad day.  I corrected them & said, "No, I will for sure celebrate until after my part in the program is done or I wouldn't make it through."  Then John said, "Wait until I'm done."

Well it was time for my part.  All went according to plan until I felt my legs shaking behind the big pulpit.  The closer to the end, the more they shook.  Dave later told me that he & Mac were watching my legs "go to town shaking."  I held onto the podium with all my might, & kept my finger right on the place I was reading.  I could feel the shakes go right up until it hit my waistline & then a lion's grip I took holding onto the pulpit until it was over.

Unbelievable, my voice never quivered.  In fact, the more I shook, the more volume with confidence came out.

Besides reading Daddy's Statement of Faith, I added a few words of my own about Daddy.  I will like to end this blog with those words.


1.  During these last few weeks, I have had so many sweet friends to come up to me to tell me what a Gentle man my Daddy was.  I know I’m partial, but I totally agree.  He was one of the most gentle men that I have ever known. 

2.   One of Daddy’s favorite verses was “My Grace is sufficient for thee, for my strength is made perfect in weaknesss, most gladly therefore will I glory in my infirmities that the power of Christ might rest upon thee.”   God made this verse real to Daddy many years ago while he was sitting on my Aunt France & Uncle Billy’s dock in Mandrin, FL.  I was told that Daddy felt like God had put him in a capsule of peace for days with this realization of  truth.  Daddy was so aware of his weaknesses, & God knew that.   Daddy drew grace & strength from this truth as he battled his weaknesses.

3.   Daddy was a big Repenter.  When God convicted him of sin or wrong doing, he was deeply sorrowful & repentant not only to God but to the person he had wronged to the best of his ability.  This will always be a vivid testimony before me as I walk with the Lord.

4.   Praying scripture out loud was routine for Daddy. This was as natural to Daddy as breathing.  He prayed this way privately, with Mother on a regular basis, & he felt safe doing this with his family & some friends.  During these last few weeks God showed me, in a small way, that Daddy was like a modern day Daniel when it came to his practice of his prayer life.   Daniel’s enemies knew that they could get Daniel in the lion’s den because of his practice of praying openly 3x daily.  Well, Daddy would be right there in the lion’s den with Daniel if  someone would try to take away Daddy praying  scripture out loud while he prayed.
                                      ann :)

Sunday, February 5, 2012

Daddy's Heart-Part 7 {warning-very long blog}

Daddy went to be with the LORD on Thursday morning around 9:15 Jan. 19, 2012.  It was such a peaceful time.  As Mother & I kept checking on him, he was snoring like a baby.  I didn't need to do anything for him.  His sheets & pillows were all in place.  As I passed through the last time I kissed his forehead & told him that I loved him & walked out.  Between the time Mother & I fixing & eating our breakfast he past away.

John & Penelope missed him by 15 min.  We didn't know how they would react.  John burst into the room with a big bear hug around Mother & I.  I was reaching for Penelope.  What he said changed the mood in the entire home.  He cheered out saying, "He made it!  He crossed over!  He is in glory!"  We cried & stood there a few moments, then we had our time around Daddy.  More tears & laughter.

                     Daddy showed us how to walked out Ps 23:4
Yes, though I walk through the [deep, sunless] valley of the shadow of death, I will fear or dread no evil, for You are with me; Your rod [to protect] and Your staff [to guide], they comfort me.


How could Daddy do this with such a positive spirit, gratefulness, courage & victory?  
             Here is his Statement of Faith:

I believe that in the beginning God, as the Supreme Being who has always been and always will be, created all things. I believe that in the beginning God not only created all material things but He also established laws and principles which govern everything He made.  I think two of the most fundamental truths He gave are:  First, without faith it is impossible to please God, for he that cometh to God must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him. Secondly, without the shedding of blood, there is no remission of sin. These were established in the beginning.

2,400 years after God created man, He gave the Ten Commandments to Moses. The laws are holy and good and God holds man accountable to every one of them. He that breaks one is guilty of all. It is by the law that we know what sin is.  We know it is impossible for man with his human nature to faithfully keep the law. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. In 2 Corinthians 3 the law is called the ministration of death. Since God in the beginning gave the eternal law that without the shedding of blood it is impossible to have sins forgiven, Jesus, His only begotten Son, came to give Himself and shed His unspotted blood to save us. This I believe. His deed on the cross is called an act of grace. For by grace are you saved through faith and this is not of yourselves.  It is a gift of God lest anyone should boast; it is a God-given salvation.

To complete His mission on earth, I believe Jesus rose from the dead on the third day, revealing Himself for some days and then He ascended back to heaven and is now at the right hand of the Father in a glorified body. This is such an important part of the gospel message for it is our message of hope.  This is the good news - Jesus having been raised from the dead means that we who have put our trust in Him shall also be raised and have an eternal body as He has.  "Beloved, now are we the sons of God.  But it doth not yet appear what we shall be, but we know that when He shall appear, we shall be like Him."  "We look for our Savior to come from heaven.  He will change these earthy bodies and make them like His own glorified body, using that power by which He is able to bring all things under His rule."

The Gospel message is not complete without a belief in the resurrection. "The word is nigh thee, even in thy mouth and in thy heart; that is, the word of faith.  That if thou will confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in thy heart that God raised Him from the dead, thou will be saved."  The Old Testament prophet said, "I believe, therefore have I spoken.  I also believe; therefore, I speak."

The rest of the story: THE CONVERSATION
One night in Dec. while in bed God spoke to Daddy's heart.  God told him that He has been preparing a place for him in heaven & now is the time for him to come home & fill it.  Also, that He had a wonderful plan for his life, & although it would not always be easy, He would be with him all the way.  He had been with him through each heart problem (which God listed out for him) & He would be with him through this.  God also told Daddy that he should not fight, but trust in Him & let God have His way with him.

For me the powerful part of this was that Daddy really thought he heard comforting and reassuring words from the Lord that strengthened his faith to face the future and his imminent death.  How amazing is our God!!!


The last commit that my Daddy wanted to leave us with concerning his life that my brother shared at the serve was:

     "In closing, I would like to share with you how Daddy saw his life near the end.  He said,  “I try to face the future taking the words of the Psalmist as my own:  ‘Failed but forgiven.  Flawed but not forsaken.  I have been such a fool, but in spite of all my foolishness, I know God still loves me and He is holding me by His right hand.  And I have confidence He will guide me the remaining days of my life and afterwards receive me into the glories of His heaven. I have gotten old, my health is failing, my strength is waning, but God remains.  He is the strength of my life and He is mine forever." 


Hallelujah! Praise the Lord! Amen! Yea!

                    I love you & will miss you.

              John Pittman (Jack) Batts, Sr.-- 86 yr old
                                               ann :)
                                            





The Service-Part 6

Daddy took great joy in preparing his funeral.  He knew what songs he wanted sung, verses to be used & who to do what.  Even though Daddy & Mother had a couple of months to talk these things out, it all came from him.  He knew what he wanted.  I have never have or I should say I have not seen in a very long time my Daddy go about planning this service with as much joy, confidence, & courage.

One day we were working on the program to be giving out at the service.  I showed it to Daddy for his approval.  All of a sudden he said, "Where did this come from?"  We had accidentally put what the pastor was to preach on 1Pet. 1: 3-9 instead of his
                                                             THEME VERSE: 
                                                             1Thess.5:8-11

But let us, since we are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for a helmet, the hope of salvation.  For God appointed us not into wrath, but unto the obtaining of salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us, that, whether we wake or sleep, we should live together with him.  Wherefore exhort one another, and build each other up, even as also ye do.
We corrected that very quickly.  :) 


The SERVICE was one of the most anointed worship services that I have ever attended.
SONGS- We had the cream of the crop in music.
                Penelope (my sister-in-luv:  soprano voice) sang "Soon"
                   Frank Christian- "How Great Thou Art"
                           (family friend for about 60 yr; base voice)
                   Ron Hachet- "Because He Lives"
                           (worship leader from First Baptist Church-tenor voice)
                   Congregational songs: "Savior Like A Shepherd Lead Us"
                                                        (This was sung at their wedding)
                                                       Medley: "Amazing Grace"
                                                                     (Daddy sang this to all the grands trying to get them to sleep)
                                                                    "Solid Rock"
                                                                    "When We All Get To Heaven"
                                                                     (We all left during this hymn)
Messages: I gave Daddy's Statement of Faith
                 John (my brother) gave an awesome delivery, sharing
                         from his/my childhood & sharing Daddy's heart.
                 Mac Weaver- (one of the pastors for 45 yr) gave the eulogy
                 Rev Phil West-(main pastor) gave the SERMON using

                                          1 Peter 1:3-9
Praise be to the God & Father of our Lord Jesus Christ!  In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, & into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fad-kept in heaven for you who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time.  In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials.  These have come so that your faith-of greater worth.


It was a blessed time.
                              ann :) 

Daddy's Gift-Part 5

As I mentioned during my last blog that God gave Daddy the gift of memorization and that he was alert to the end.  Daddy loved scripture.  He didn't memorize verses but passages.  I asked God for that gift, but so far I haven't received it yet.  Daddy was also a very hard worker all his life.

In November Daddy began writing down poems, hymns, verses & passages that meant a lot to him & that he had memorized.  He also wrote out his statement of faith that he wanted me to read during the worship/funeral service.  He started writing out his obituary & what he wanted for the worship service.  He first just wanted a graveside service, then he decided on a worship service.  He could careless about someone giving his eulogy.

During one of our devotion times John (my brother) was reading some of Daddy's poems to him that he had memorized.  In the middle of some of them he would correct him & then finish it out or just start quoting it.   The Tues before he died on Thurs (his last really good day), I mentioned how I wish that I had "The Kite" poem that he had memorized, but I would get it from John.  He then said, "I will give it to you."  And he sure did.  It was a very long poem.  His mind & alertness was amazing to me.

Here's "The Kite" poem---

“The Kite”   
“See how the crowd of gazing people
admire my flight above the steeple. 

How they would wonder, if they knew,
all that a kite like me could do.

If I were free from this string, 
I would take a flight and pierce the clouds beyond their sight.

I'd brave the eagles towering wings,
were I but free from the string.” 

It tugged and pulled, as it spoke,
to snap the string and at last, it broke. 

Unable it's own weight to bare,
it fluttered downward through the air. 

Unable it's own course to guide,
it soon plunged into the tide. 

Ah, foolish kite; thou hast no wings;
how couldst thou fly without a string? 

My heart cried out, “Oh God, I see just how much that kite resembles me.

Forgetful that in Thee I stand,
unmindful of Thy ruling hand. 

How often I wished to break the line
Thy wisdom for my lot assigns. 

How often indulged in vain desires
for something more or something higher. 

But for Thy love and grace divine,
a fall so dreadful had been mine.” 

This was how Daddy truly saw himself--his heart.
                                   ann :)

Special Moments-Part 4

Along with all the partying we had some special one on one time with Daddy.  I want ever forget the morning after Daddy got home from the hospital I made him one of my smoothies & then climbed up in bed with him & read my Bible Reading to him.  Even though he kept his eyes closed the entire time he seemed to really enjoy it. 


I loved making him a smoothie almost every morning.  In fact everyone asked for them for breakfast.  One morning Daddy & I started talking about times that he & I just shared.  I wouldn't leave his side for anything.  I wouldn't answer the phone, or the door or any other distraction that would take me away from that bed.  A precious time for the both of us.


As a family (Mother, John, Penelope, Daddy & me), we tried to have some morning devotions.  It didn't happen ever morning, but when it did it was so natural & so God ordained.  They began with the days reading from Destined to Reign by Joseph Prince.  Awesome book by the way.  Then prayer, an some hymns.  Most of the time we couldn't remember the words that would bring on laughter, but oh so sweet.


My last devotion with Daddy & Mother was the Tues before Daddy died on Thur am.  He had been in a medical sleep for 2 1/2 days & was coming out of it.  It really was his last really good day.  He still had a sparkle in his eye & was very much alert.  Anyway, that devotion was so anointed by the Lord.  I didn't read the days reading that morning but I read the day before.  It was on comparing Satan as a roaring lion coming to devour us vs Jesus being the Lion of Judah being in us & His power in us.  It was so powerful.  I had felt lead for days to anoint Daddy & Mother with oil, & after the reading, it seemed so fitting.  Again, after the anointing & prayers, sweet singing began.


During that day Daddy would say some things I will never forget like: 1) I was helping him with his smoothie & he looked at me & said, "Dave (my husband) is going to be so jealous of me"-meaning I'm here taking care of him & not in AR taking care of Dave.  2) As I was taking care of him from rolling him over (with Mother's help), to suave on his lips, to feeding him, fixing his bed-he looked at me & said,"What would I have done without you?!"  I needed to hear that & it spoke to my heart & soul.


All throughout this time, we all saw a special side of Daddy that we hadn't seen in a long time.  A special sweetest, tenderness, & a lot of humor.  One thing that Daddy had throughout his life-time, espcially up until the very end of his life was his gift of memorization & alertness.
                                        ann :)  





The Party Continues-Part 3

We got Daddy home from the hospital the Friday after I got in town this past Wednesday.  Friday was not a good day for Daddy.  He was so disappointed on how bad he felt after how great he felt in the hospital.  Just getting him home & having Hospice come out, just wore him out.

The next week and a half was like a party.  Daddy was not in any pain & he enjoyed everyone who came to see him.  John & Penelope came for the week.  The grands came in & out like Brion, Elliott & Lauren; Brittany; & Melissa, Alex & Izzy.  We took pictures galmor.  It was so special to see our Izzy. 9 days old born on Jan 1st, next to Daddy.  She was Mother & Daddy's 10th great grand baby.  In fact tears began because all I could think about was the Lord giveth & the Lord taketh away. 


We had a chance to Skype more grands & great grands: Jenny & the children in Austin, TX; Ben, Jenny & Lauren in Maumelle, AR; & Amy in Maumelle, AR.  Such special visits.  While talking to Jenny & the 6 great grands, they asked Daddy if there was anything that he would like to tell them?  He said the normal "I love you, & proud of you," then I think the verse he gave them was from 
             Hebrews 12:1a-Therefore then, since we are surrounded by so great a 
cloud of witness... 
and that he would be in heaven apart of this great cloud of witnesses observing them.  It was so touching. 


  Besides seeing close friends, other family members came to visit from FL-Lee & Debbie; Linda & Rick; & Jo Ann.  Again, such a precious time.  


During this week their were tears, so much laughter, watching home movies, visiting with each other.  As people would leave, they would all say that they were so encouraged because of Daddy's spirit.  Daddy had the most positive, grateful & uplifting spirit.  You couldn't help but be uplifted when you left after being around him.  The hardest part was saying good-bye to Daddy knowing that this would be the last time for them to see Daddy-friend Jack, Uncle Jack, or Grand papa.  Tears flowed at the bedside & in the kitchen on the way out to the car.


So many thoughtful people called, brought my food, etc...


And every day Daddy got weaker & weaker.
                                           ann :)