Showing posts with label Friendships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Friendships. Show all posts

Friday, December 28, 2012

Fresh Pair of Eyes

Last year I wrote a blog named Bridge & Sisterhood on 9.21.11.  I was leaving Highlands, NC & was moving to Maumelle, AR at the time.  I wrote about my dear friends that I played bridge with every week.  There were five of us at the time, but now there are four because Charlene pasted away this past November.  I wrote about Charlene 12.9.12.

These ladies are so dear to me.  These friends are the ones that I try to keep in touch with quite frequently, & many times every day on Face Book.  I still call them for prayer, encouragement & advice.

When I left they gave me this beautiful hand cut necklace & earrings.  They wanted me to have something special to remember them by & Highlands, like I could ever forget.  Each stone is hand-cut  made out of picture jasper, spotted jasper, agate & Italian foil glass.  The store where they bought it makes each necklace difference.  So what I'm trying to say is that my necklace was created with care, love & was made unique.

I guess you might see where I'm going with this.  Just like God created each of us in
Ps 139: 13-14.
For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.


I want to go back to friendship.  I see each of their friendships as unique.  They each have a fresh ideas & experiences just like each hand-cut stone in the necklace.

I had several situations that have come up this year.  Besides prayer & searching the scriptures, God has given me friends throughout my life to share with.  Each one has a different mind-set that has fresh perspectives from their own life experiences.  They know the Lord & what He wants for each of us.  I appreciate friends who know me, & won't judge me.  Friends that I can identity with & speak honestly with.

Besides these dear friends that I turn to, I also have a dear childhood friend named Kay Wiggins Adham. Our lives have seemed to run parallel since we were born, & even more so since our fathers died three weeks apart at the end of last year & beginning of this year.  Since then we have been in contact pretty frequently.

One day I had a light-bulb moment.  I was traveling home, & I had so much on my mind.  It dawned on me, instead of just calling my friends, telling them all about my situation, talking it out with them, & asking for prayer; 

what about a fresh pair of eyes to help me truly change my heart. 

Yes, I told Kay all about the situation; yes, we talked it all out; & yes, I asked for prayer; but this time I truly wanted God to change my feelings, to change my heart.  I just didn't want my feelings validated that time.  I wanted to see my wrong, if I was wrong.  From that point on I could tell I was different.  I wanted to be different at the beginning of the conversation.  In fact, the purpose of the conversation was I desired God to change me & to use my friendships as a fresh pair of eyes, heart, & mind to help me see what God wanted me to see in my situation.

I'm grateful.
ann :)
       



Sunday, December 9, 2012

Charlene

When you look in the dictionary under the word spunky, you would find a picture of this dear friend of mine, Charlene Hendricks.  
Charlene past away November 7, 2012.  It is hard for me to believe that the picture in this collage in the upper right corner was Charlene's 96th birthday which was this past February.  

 The first time I met Charlene & her husband Sam, was when I was walked into Community Bible Church for the first time.  Before I walked into the church, I thought to myself, "the first people I meet are going to end up beng very special to me in this church."  This happened to be a very true statement.

Sam & Charlene were married, I think for 62-66 yr.  They had the same birthday & they both loved bridge.  In fact it was Charlene who asked me to join her bridge group.  I wrote about them in the blog: Bridge & Sisterhood-Sept 21, 11.  Both Sam & Charlene loved their family, Joy the children's dog, their friends, their church, but most of all their LORD.  They were big prayer warriors.  They had the gift of hospitality & loved developing relationships around the kitchen table playing bridge.

Sam was quiet & love poured out of him.  Charlene, definitely loved people, but she definitely had a spunky personality that couldn't help but make you laugh.  We were meeting at Charlene's home one afternoon to play bridge.  We were doing our normal routine of catching-up, eating, laughing & playing some bridge.  Sam had a beautiful gazebo built on their property.  All of a sudden, Charlene was telling us about how this gazebo was built just for her.  Then she started telling us about how Sam put this life size stuffed man sitting out in the gazebo.  She was appauled & felt that since this was her gazebo, Sam should not have put this "man" out there.  That was all she could see looking out her kitchen window.   He was dressed really tacky & Charlene hated it.  I think Sam did it to just get her goat.  We were laughing the belly laugh as she would tell us all about the situation.  I wish I could really write how funny it truly was, but I do remember the joy we all had together discussing it.

Charlene was true to herself & her convictions.  I had the joy of studying the Bible with her many times, but one study in particular we met in my home for a season.  This is where I began to learn of Charlene's heart in a more deep matter.

I began to get to know Charlene & Sam when they were in their late 80's.  Even though Sam would drive them around, most of the time, we would meet in their home.  Their home was unique because the upstairs was totally separate from the downstairs.  Their children lived upstairs & they lived downstairs.  One of my favorite decorations in their home was a beautiful professional hand painted picture of them walking through a garden holding hands.  That was their life.  They had been married for 62 yr.  Sam died right after his 82nd birthday & Charlene pasted away at 86 yr.

Charlene moved to an assisting living facility during her last few years of life.  When you would walk into Charlene's room, her face would just glow.  She was always ready to give you a hug & kiss.
Charlene had more consistent visitors in a week than anyone could count.  People enjoyed her, & she enjoyed them.  You could talk to her about anything & she would really listen to what you needed to say.

One of the greatest lessons I learned from Charlene is how to grow old graciously.  I observed a woman who still needed to work at being married in old age; lost her soul mate of more than 60 yrs; had to move from her home to an assisted living home.  She did this with God's grace, dignity & syle. She accepted her ailments, but still did what she could & choice to choose joy throughout her days.

Highlands will never be the same for me when I visit, because she was the hub of our group.  The other four of us would come to her since she could not get out too much accept for going to church.  It is going to seem so strange not to go & visit her & spend at least one afternoon playing bridge with her.

Charlene was called "Precious" by her grandchildren.  She was a precious lady, & a precious friend.  I'll miss her friendship.

I can see Sam meeting her at heavens door, dancing their way for her to meet Jesus, then on to see other loved ones that have gone before, & then I'm sure a game of bridge is set up right around the corner for them to play.

I hate that I didn't get to tell Charlene good-bye one more time, but I know she knew I loved her & I know that she loved me.  See you soon.

ann :)




Saturday, May 12, 2012

Nov 9, 1997- May 1, 2012

I won't ever forget 14 Christmas's ago, 1997, Dave surprised me with a precious Yorkshire puppy about as big as my hand.  I was like a gleeful child.  All Yorkies are black when they are born, so the name Ann's Christmas Truffle.  She was like having a chocolate drop in one hand.  Many times through these years Truffles' name became Trouble, Truf, Truf Truf, & Boo to name a few.

We got her when she was 6 wks old.  We also had a German Shepherd about 75 lbs named Titus.  Dave was so fearful that Titus would eat her alive.  Well, Titus became the mother of this dog.  All Truffle wanted to do was stay outside & play with Titus.  Many times you would see Titus curled up in the sunshine with this black spot tumbling all over him.  This is where we believe Truffle thought she was as big as Titus.

As Truffle got braver, & about a pound bigger, she became the leader of the pair.  We lived in the country at the time with a driveway about 2/10mi long.  From time to time that little dog & her cohort in crime, would be found by the road after traveling down that long driveway.  Before Truffle, Titus would never left his post by our back door.

One of Titus's favorite games was chasing after the soccer ball.  Well, Truffle couldn't be left behind.  I hope you can imagine this scenario.  We would throw the soccer ball, Titus chases it, Truffle chases Titus.  As she would get near Titus, this 2-3 lb dog would then start jumping up, while running mind you, to bite onto Titus's tail, which then became a ski for her; all the while Titus' tail would be going back & forth with this bump swinging on the end of it.  It was too funny.  We did get it on video. I now wished we would have sent the video into America's Most Funny Videos Show.  I bet we would have won.


Do to her size, Truffle could get herself into some jams.  Several times I couldn't find her anywhere.  We had just moved from our country home to our city home in Valdosta, leaving behind Titus.  She had never been a yapper but she would have this annoying soft bark.  She would make her noise, then you would wait for about 45 sec or more before another tiny whinny bark would come.  It was like a dripping faucet.  As soon as you would change your thought process or ignore her, here would come another whimper.  Anyway, she got away & ended up in our neighbors garage all night.  I sure felt odd having to walk over to our new neighbors before daylight to ask them if I could look in their garage for my 4 lb Yorkie.  Sure enough, there she was.  Another time she got caught in the pantry for a while.

First, Truffle was a country dog, then a city dog, then a mountain dog.  She even loved the beach.  My side of the family loved going to St Augustine Beach for many years with my parents.  My Daddy loved  taking Truffle  on her walks.  There was a long bridge from our condominium to the beach.  Underneath the bridge was plenty of plant life that housed snakes, turtles, & rabbits.  Truffle would shake with excitement starring through the railings just to look at those rabbits.  Well, Truffle had a memory & she would remember every year about those rabbits.

One beach trip Daddy was taking Truffle for a walk in the parking lot where all the ponds & ducks were. Daddy was so proud of himself that he was teaching Truffle to walk beside him WITHOUT a leash.  I told Daddy I always wanted Truffle on a leash, plus the complex wanted all dogs on a leash.  Well, Daddy didn't think Truffle would get away.  You guessed it.  Where did she run?  To the rabbits.  Yes, she was under the bridge with the snakes chasing the rabbits.  My Daddy immediately ran up to our condo to get my niece to help him get Truffle.  Obviously, he didn't come & get me, because he knew he was in trouble with me  When they all came back, He looked at Truffle who was happy & panting her heart out, saying "Bad dog, Bad dog!"  I immediately looked at my Daddy & said, "No, Bad Daddy, Bad Daddy!"  They were a pair.

Truffle's most famous mountain story was when she chased after a mother bear & her two very tiny cubs, & lived to tell about.  Very briefly,  Dave & I had gone our separate ways that evening.  It was early Spring & the bears were just moving about in Highlands.  They had gone to our door while we were out.  Dave got home first, thank heavens!  He let Truffle out to go do her thing, & off she went to chase those bears.  Dave went after her in the woods.  She yelped in pain & Dave knew she was dead.  As Dave was looking for her dead body, he came across some huge bushes that he had to make a choice to decide which way to go.  After his decision, he made his way through the thick woods.  All of a sudden he felt some leaves & bark falling on his head.  He looked up & there were the tinest bear cubs he ever saw.  They must have been right out of the den.  About that time he heard the mother bear huff.  His next thought was, "I'm dead".  He got out of there so fast & walked around the block.  When he got home, there was Truf at the door, bleeding.  That mother bear just picked Truffle up in her mouth & slung her.  You could see the mouth bites of the bear on Truffle's back & stomach.  Amazing how well Truffle healed up.  What is so crazy about this story is that Truffle would go after them again.  She never learned her lesson.

SOME OF TRUFFLE'S WAYS:
1. Truffle was a person in a dog suit.
2. She was definitely a lap dog.  When Dave got home after a long day of working, he was ready to be by himself & veg.  Well, Truffle prefered to show how much she luved Dave by laying in his lap.  Dave just luved that.  Wrong!
3. I loved seeing that tiny head pop up in the window of my car as she would be watching for me.
4. A.  Truffle loved my parents.  After a 6 hour drive, she knew when we were near their house.  Truffle would start her whinning as soon as we would hit their neighborhood.  When we arrived, I'd open the house door, & she would run throughout their house to say hello.
    B.  She loved sitting on the back of their couch looking for squirrels.
    C.  My Daddy put a basket on the front of his bike for Truffle to ride in.  As soon as we would arrive, Truffle was ready for her bike ride.
    D.  All I had to say to her was, "Do you want to go see Grandpapa & Grandmama?" & she would go crazy.
5.  Truffle never met a stranger unless, if it was another dog.  She loved people & everyone loved her.
Everyone thought she was a puppy, up until she passed away.
6.  Boy, could Truffle walk & hike.  She walked about 3 mi, even up to the end of her life.  When living in Highlands, she would hike Whiteside Mt about 2x a week during the Spring, Summer & Fall.  Since we had moved to Maumelle, Truffle knew when Dave walked in the door from work that it was time to go for our walk.
7.  She was my constant friend for 14 1/4 yrs.  She slept with me, went on my errands with me, traveled
with me & naturally was there at home for me.  She was a sweetheart.

Thank you Dave for giving me 
this sweet friend.
Good-Bye sweet Friend
         ann :)

 
 

Sunday, October 30, 2011

What Cup Are You?

If you are a women reading this, you might think I was writing about your bra size.  If you are a man reading this, you probably don't have an idea what I am writing about.

My real question should be is What Cup Style Are You?
                                 Mug?                 or
                                 Tea Cup?           or
                                 Styrofoam Cup?      

You might not realize it, but the style of drinking container says a lot about you.
                A mug says to me that you probably are a warm & sturdy  person.  The drink of choice is probably coffee or even hot chocolate.  A mug is a great one or two handed drink item.  It is great for your morning coffee while reading the paper (one handed), or snuggling up with on a cold day (two handed).
                A tea cup says to me that you might like to dress up, slow down & savor a bit.  It all begins with putting the tea kettle onto boil, & waiting for the tea to steep in a beautiful teapot.  Then, you pour your tea through a tea strainer & you are ready to hold your teacup, & enjoy.  Maybe have a scone with your tea.  This is not like going through Starbucks or McDonald's for a quick drink on the way to & from work.
                A Styrofoam cup says to me that you might be just a little cheap.   A lot of the time these people probably don't like to throw these cups away but, keep a stash of them in the cabinet.  You might rewash them in the dish washer & use them over & over.  Some people may even call these cup users a little bit of a Red-Neck to a degree.  I have been told by these people, that the real reason they like to use these cups is because it keeps the liquid very hot.  To reuse them could be a way to help the environment- on their defense.

                                         TO EACH THEIR OWN

I prefer a mug for my coffee in the morning while catching up with emails & watching the news.  I am gradually getting into a ritual of enjoying tea mid afternoon.  I love picking out one of my tea cups & steep some tea.  Tea time is just for me or time to share it with someone.  If I am by myself, I turn off the TV (if it is on),  read, or listen to music, or just be quiet.  I am looking forward to getting to know some new women this way.  I can't wait to share this time with some old friends.

I have had the privilege of observing a wonderful mother/daughter relationship while living in Highlands.  Shirley & Laura have such a great relationship & enjoy so many things together.  One thing they share from time to time is to have tea.  Sometime they would have tea & a cookie or tea & all the trimmings.  It was through them that have brought this lovely new tradition to my own personal life.  They gave me a delightful tea with all the trimmings before I left.

Having tea & sharing tea are two different things.  Having tea is almost like grabbing a cup of coffee on the go.  Sharing tea is you don't hurry at all.  You take the time to slow down to build & cherish a relationship.

Yesterday, it was my total joy to give my first high tea, & I got to share it with my special girls-Amy & Jenny.  Amy even requested it two weeks ago.  That REALLY meant a lot to me.  Even though they knew we were having tea, they didn't know what to expect.  I really surprised them & I had a blast.  We laughed, shared, & I evened cried a little.  Jenny even suggested for us to do this once a month.  The girls said that they would even help with the food.   Jenny said "I can go to Kroger & buy Cajun Chicken Salad"-like I did.

Hebrews 10:24-25
24 and let us consider one another to provoke unto love and good works;
25 not forsaking our own assembling together, as the custom of some is, but exhorting one another; and so much the more, as ye see the day drawing nigh.

I think that this verse can also apply outside of church.  Enjoy!!!

                              ann :)

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Bridge & Sisterhood

Bridge means different things to different people.

The reason many groups get together is because it is all about the game. Knowing all the conventions.  Being quiet while playing.  Two people keeping score.  This is fun to them.

Bridge means something entirely different to my group.  We use bridge as a chance to get together weekly & play some bridge on the side.   

This is my group:  Linda, Charlene, me, Ginger & Shirley.
{They gave me a going away party last week.  Like I wrote, we do more than bridge.}

Our group is very unusual for many reasons:

              1.  There are 5 & not the usual 4 members in the group.
              2.  Our ages spans 4 decades.   
                    I'm the baby-56 yr, two are 66 yr, one is 76 yr & one 96 yr.
                    Notice we all in the #6.
              3.  It might take 2 to 3 hrs to make a rubber.  
                   {That's bridge talk.}


 I was asked to join the group by the oldest member about 6 or 7 years ago.  I hardly knew anything about the game, but I was excited about learning it.  At that time it was all about the GAME, but God had other plans for me.

When I began playing, these women were used to playing from 1:00 - 5:00 pm or later.  I thought this was unreal.  I could see playing 2 or maybe 3 hr, tops.  Also, when I got the bid, I didn't want anyone to talk because I would loose concentration.  I thought they were pros.  They could talk & play, stop while playing a hand & pick right up where they left off.  I prayed many times that I wouldn't get the bid for fear I would have to play the hand, then loose.  I would be shaking in my boots.

Then one day I felt within my spirit the Lord telling me, "You are here for more than the game bridge.  There is too much wisdom in this room.  Relax & learn."  This was so true.  Yes, I have learned a little bridge, but I have gained valuable, deep friendships a long the way.  God gave me much more than my hearts desire.

BRIDGE SISTERHOOD
              1.  It is a safe group.  That means we can share anything & it will stay in that room.
              2.  We know each others hearts.
              3.  We are there for each other through the different seasons of our lives.
              4.  We laugh until we cry; we cry until we laugh; we talk, talk, talk; eat; share;
                   celebrate any chance we can get; we learn from each others lives; & pray together.
              5.  We are true sisters in the Lord & I love each of these women.

Of all the activities I have done & the people that I have met in Highlands, this group is at the top of my list.  I know this type of friendship doesn't come by often.  I know I will make new friends in AR {my next season of life}, but it will never take the place of what God has put together.  This has been a God thing & we all know it.

I am grateful to God & Charlene, who asked me to join the group.  Looked what I would have missed if she had not reached out to me.  Thank you!

Thank you dear Ladies.  {This title I give sparingly.  They are truly ladies in my book.}

I will miss you.

                 ann :)